30 Healthy Promises To Make To Yourself Before Turning 30

I turn 30 this month and its one of those scary-big milestones that everyone sort of half dreads and half optimistically looks forward to. Most people on the other side saytheir 30sprove to be theirmore comfortable years, and that they enjoy them even more than their 20s, when they worried too much about what other people thought or wasted time on doomed relationships.

Does that mean I have something to look forward to along with welcoming another decade?

If our 30s are supposed to betheyears when we feel more confident, enjoy life more, and spend more time with the people who matter, then there are a few promises we should make to ourselves in order to be healthier and happier in anticipation of the milestone (and thereafter). Say them out loud with me:

1. I promise to be gentle with myself.Because in an argument with myself, Ill always lose.

2. I promise to love openly, even if being open means my heart might get broken.Because treating love like a game with winners and losers is the road to misery.

3. I promise to accept the person in the mirror.Because I look amazing and I dont have the time or energy to spend on self-loathing.

4. I promise not to compare myself to fashion magazines.Because nobody looks like those airbrushed fantasies and how boring would life be if we all looked the same?

5. I promise not to sabotage things that could be good for me even if Im scared I might get hurt.Because I dont have time for that nonsense anymore.

6. I promise never to reserve a loving thought or word.Because if it isnt reciprocated, Ill know how the other person feels, and if it is reciprocated, Ill know how the other person feels.

7. I promise not to takethingspersonally when people who I dont know are unkind with me.Because their bad mood is about them, not me.

8. I promise to surround myself with people who elevate me.Because supportive relationships are healthy ones.

9. I promise to elevate those who I spend my time with.Because support is a two-way street.

10. I promise to be happy for my friends when good things happen to them. Because their good fortune in no way takes away from mine.

11. I promise to search inwardly when Im jealous of someone.Because I need to find the root of the problem instead of letting myself dislike someone else for no good reason.

12. I promise to be generous with my patience, kindness, and empathy.Because at the end of the day, good things will come back to me.

13. I promise to form my own opinions about people instead of listening to gossip.Because hating someone just because my friends do is so high-school.

14. I promise to try to understand things from someone elses point of view.Because its simply not possible that Im always right.

15. I promise not to let the words of people who I dont love get to me.Because I dont have to internalize negativity from someone whose opinion doesnt matter dearly to me.

16. I promise to acknowledge, even if only internally, when Ive done something wrong.Because living in denial wont help me to move forward in a positive direction.

17. I promise not to base my self-value on the opinions of others.Because my self-worth should not yo-yo up and down with the emotions of someone else.

18. I promise not to depend on others for my happiness.Because Im the captain of this ship.

19. I promise to stop and think first before I say a hurtful word.Because its probably not productive.

20. I promise not to let my dreams die.Because hopes and dreams are the spice of life and they keep me excited and stimulated.

21. I promise to give my dreams a legitimate effort.Because lifes short and I only get one chance.

22. I promise to be honest with myself about how much hard work Im putting into my goals.Because for 99.9% of people, theres no such thing as overnight success.

23. I promise to take responsibility for my own life.Because nobody else is to blame not my parents, my friends, my ex, or any external forces for my good or bad decisions.

24. I promise to stop comparing myself to others.Because the Facebook news feed never tells the whole truth, and neither do celebrities and commercials.

25. I promise to just let the little things go.Because being right is not more important than preserving a friendship or relationship.

26. I promise not to let people walk all over me, either.Because I am not a doormat.

27. I promise not to date people simply because they boost my ego or make me feel better about a breakup.Because its a waste of time for both of us.

28. I promise not to turn to retail therapy, mind-altering substances, or any other band-aid solution for my sorrows.Because if I confront them head-on and work them out, even though its scary to do so, I can heal instead of prolonging the process.

29. I promise to practice gratitude.Because being grateful for what I have will make me less worried about what I dont have.

30. I promise that, even if I break any of these promises, Ill forgive myself.Because nobodys perfect.

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